Our view of tragedy makes a big difference on what happens to us, or how we respond when we experience one. If we believe that tragedies shouldn’t happen to us because of whatever reason (i.e. We are Christians, ‘good people’, we do ‘good deeds’, we are young, we don’t deserve it, etc.), then the road to recovery will be a much more difficult one and our relationship with God (or lack of) will be tainted negatively. We may experience confusion about God, anger towards God, and blame God – this may be conscious or unconscious. We will then get stuck in the ‘why did this happen?’ stage for much longer; some may never recover from this stage, and may move towards the denial of the existence of God or reject God all together.
But if we know (not head knowledge; but truly accept, understand, and believe) that tragedy, no matter how small or how big, is part of a fallen world that we are subject to, that it will happen to us all, no matter how young or how old we are, and that God’s grace and mercy is over us all (whether we know Him or not), then when we are faced with a tragedy, the road to recovery will be a much smoother one. In our relationship with God, we will experience a new height of understanding and our relationship with Him will be strengthen.
What you believe makes a big difference on how you experience a situation or the aftermath of a tragedy. Often times, we have difficulty comforting those who are suffering because of our own belief of why humans experience tragedies and our presumptive thoughts on what we think the other person thinks about his/her tragedy.
What is your view of tragedy? Do you believe that bad things shouldn’t happen to “good people’ or to those who do ‘good deeds’? Do you believe that you or others aren’t deserving of tragedies? Do you believe that tragedies are an attack from Satan? Do you believe tragedies come from God? Or Do you believe that tragedies come from both God and Satan? Your belief makes a difference on your experience and the aftermath of a tragedy.